Thursday, 25 August 2016

because you're a girl


*Because you're a Girl* These are the words which every girl have to listen in her house. By listening these words one must thought that there is a rule implemented here , that'd be break. Either it is inlaws or her parents house, every girl have to make compromises. It is injected in the mind that you must go to the next house where these non-serious attitude will not be tolerated but to be straightforward there is no boy in any house, to whom these things shared to him that work hard because you should have to take responsibility of other's daughter, in this so called soceity if any man would help her wife in her domestic chores he'd be called as *henpecked* husband, if we read the life history of *Hazrat Muhammad PBUH* we will see that our *Prophet PBUH* used to help himself but in our society it feel honoured that women should follow the order of her family members, in that ages, there were women workers, but now every sister mother daughter and wife have become servant of themn If we see the other side of this society we see that by being a Girl, used to be considered as as highly burden on the shoulder of the parents, parents brought her up in a very lavish way,in the end when she gets married, dowry is given to the inlaws of that daugher which cost approximately millions ruppes so that their daughter should be respected there, in islam it has been performed in a very simple way but now the hindu culture adopted and destroy the uniqueness of *Nikaah*, if anyone follows this simple rule, he is considered to be very close fisted man,after marriage girl has ti listen thet thorny words of her inlaws, a girl future os destroyed by the name of honour, why? Because her blunder is *to be a girl*? No doubt,islam has granted the great place to a man but it doesn't right to snatch the happiness of a girl, these are the men who feel themselves very honorable when their sister doesn't get interactive with other men,but their honorship dies when they interacted to other daughters or sisters.. These are the men who kill their sisters by the name of honor, they usually sleep on the bed of their wives which their father in laws grabted granted his daughter ..they desire that wome should do job but they don't tolerate that other men will see his woman,they long for that their women should bring the earning and put it in their hands and never demand anything in return, they want that she should do job and also do domestic household, if out of tiredness she utter something her tongue pull it up...thery are thoses honorable husband who got married twice but never take the responsibilities of only one wife, if their wives demand something for the casual expenditure thery hit her and prove that they are the most honorable one. *O God she has grown up should be get married soon* These words are uttered by the those relative who get active while in the issue of weddings or result otherwise to the whole year they don't show themselves that they are our relatives too, they stay outside like a dead battery, according to the estimation, in a university level girls got more seats than the boys, among some of them girls got married when they enter in the environment of university.Those aunts who think that girls get in the age of 22nd, they will be seemed as old ladies, if they become highly educated and don't get job because if they will adopt the job option, who else will look after their children, who else will do the household chores, street members will have a negative thoughts that their grand daughter do job and come late at night. People also say to the girls that do some efforts on her personality, if u don't do any makeup no one likes u, if you hace any deficiency in her personality it is also your fault but people never tell to her daughters that fault is basically in the eyes of others not in you, *boy is either good or bad he must be earining hand* this things we usually listen in our dayy to day life, but those stingy talks which girls have to listen throughout her childhood, but these things should be understood to the boys.
In *Quran-E-Pak* we read that both men n women are dress to each other, nobody wants to wear filthy dress, it seems that women are usually treating like a dress if one gets up from taht dress he change the dress, girls have been nominated as a brand dresses to which tags are sticked, if u have the ability to buy it u can,here it doesn't mean that women are for sale, rather it means that she is hanged by afflicting some merits and some informative possession, and brand is introducing by the job of her father now whoever wants to get her or reject her why this happened in our society ???? *it's because you are a Girl* you can never reply either you are on a right option because you will be called as rude person and rude girls are never ever be treated as a good girl, stay quiet and never say a word, never laugh loudly, walk smoothly and talk with the manners.. whyy? *because you are a girl* we talk on the rights of women, we celebrate the *world women day* and organize seminars, we teach them how to raise voice for you rights but we don't tell all these rights to men that they don't have any right to snatch the basic rights of women why don't we tell them? Woman is not like a dress Women are not like a dress whenever you want to buy and wear it out and after getting too old you thrash it down,why don't we tell them that if they perform their duties women rights will be accomplished, why they have to be taught that if you love a women respect the women, you will be called as weak man, why don't they realize that if women sacrifice her life for him,he should have to respect her for her sacrifices. If we see that *(mother, daughter, sister, grand-daughter)* have not their lives, their lives spend to sacrifice for others, they left theri mother in old houses who has sacrificed her life for her children , who have taught her each and everything about life. And there is a daughter who gonna protect the dignity of her parents sacrifice to her desire and there is a brother who killed his sister by the name of honor, and there in laws, women are tortured by the name of dowry, is ther all these things happened to a man in this society? Because man has been taught since the childhood that man never cries that's why he torture others, he has been taught that if his one will is not been fulfilled by his earnings he can fulfil it through the dowry of a women if he doesn't get it he can torture her. In the end, *a woman sacrifice her life for the sake of others if she would be sacrificed for their satisfaction, it is not called as Sacrifice rather it is called as assassination or an openly murder* !!


Sunday, 21 August 2016


Mai kia kaho.. aye nani jaan..
Mai janti hu teri khuwaish thi isy khelnay ki tabi itni hifzat sy smbhalay baitha hai..
Harasto ka teri ankhon main jaal bicha hai..
Par ya khilona to uskay bachay ka hai jiski kay tu sath rehta hai...
Wo tujhay bhul gaya k tu bhe ek bacha hai..
aye nani si jaan tera qasorr bas itna hai..
Tu gareeb ka bacha hai..

Tuesday, 9 August 2016

تعلیم تو ہے مگر تہذیب نہیں

Kehtay hai taleem insan ko tameez seekhati hai, mgr kahin bar kuch log kitni he taleem hasil karlainn wo tameez ka tay* bhe nh seekh patay. agr galti sy wo tameez seekh bhe lain to wo tahzeeb ko bhula dytay hai. bas yahen haal kuch humray mashray ka horha hai. taleem to achi si achi hasil karhy hai mgr tameez aur tahzeeb bhulatay ja rhy hai. koi bhe shakhs kisi baray idaray sy taleem hasil karlain phir dekhaiye wo khud ko bara insan smjh kr dusron ko apny say kamtarr kaisay smjhnay lagta h. unk pas taleem to hogi hai degree to hoti hai mgr aqal kam hujati hai. kaisay? ab ap khud he dekh lai aj kal k designers ko lakho ruppy k kapray design kartay hai mgr lagta hai jaisay kisi pouchnaay(jahropoucha) ki chindi utha kr design ki hai. models pehn kr jab walk krti hai to lagta hai insay zaida kapron ki zarort kisi ko nh. abhi haal he honay wali kapron ki sale par toti hui khawateen to apny dekhi he hogi wo koi aanparh khawateen nh thi. wo taleemyafta khawateen thi jo brand k peechay aisay ek dusry ko maar rahi thi jaisay ghr mai khanay sy zaida kapron ki qilat hu. rashan ki taqseem mai gareebon ki dhakamphail to suna tha. mgr jaisay jaisay humray darzi ops sorry designers market mai pouchnaay jaisi chindiyaa brand mai laa rhay hai waisay waissy khawateen ko poucha numa kapray khareednay ka shouq bharta ja rha hai. chlao kisi tarah to pouchay sy lagao hua. jaisy jaisy insan koo oucha maqam hasil krta ja rha h waisy he uski aqal usk qadmon mai ati ja rhi hai. ab ap koi bhe film utha kr dekh lai apni tahzeeb bhula kr india ki tahzeeb apnanatay hui items song dalay ja rhy hai. saans bahu gopi bahu ahem jee ko dekh dekh kr ab pakistan mai b ek adat mazlom aurat aur do àdatt mard k gird ghumti hui kahanai k siwa koi aisi kahani nazar sy nh guzarti jismai koi sabaq hu siwae talaq shaddi jaissy humry mashray mai isy bhar kr koi dusra issue nh hu. ek saal pehlay honay wala waqaiye to sb ko yad he hoga jab mohabbat mai nakami k baad do school kay larka larki nay ek dusray ko goli mar kr apni zindagi khatam krli.. yah dramao filmo ka asar nh tha to phir kia tha? jo umer unki parhnay wli thi usmai wo is tarah ki souch rakhtay thay..jo unkay khaatoot say he wazaiy karha hai k humray mashray ka bacha taleem to hasil krha hai mgr tarbiyat mai koi kami reh rhi.. yah phir tahzeeb sy ussay dur krdia ja rha hai.. yah souch ek dam mashray mai nh ati banai jati hai. Loug 200 rupay ki kitab khareedtay waqt hazar bar souchtay hai mgr 500 rp ka movie ka ticket khareedty wqt ek br bhe nh. qk ab unhe b adat hogahe hai poucha numa kapray pehnti aurton ko dance karty dekhnay ki. to phir mai q na kahu taleem to hai tahzeeb nh. subah sy ghr sy nikala baap do do nokari kr k rat mai ghr mai ghusta hu. chota mota ghr ka kharcha chalati maa mehnat sy kam paison mai kapray siti hu.. 50, 60 hazar university ki fees ada kertay bàap sy kharchay k liya paisa mangta beita apni gf k liya tohfa khareedta ho , ghr ki izzat beiti ko maa parhanay k liya mashray ki buri nazar sy bachanay k lia duae parh kr chadar mai ruksat krti hu. wohe beiti kisi namehram k sth date par jati hu, to phir mai kaisay naa kahu taleem to hai mgr tahzeeb nh. maabaap baray khoon pasinaay ki kaamai sy bacho ko parhanay bjhtay hai aala sy aala taleem hasil karwanay bjhtay hai. unk liya din rat mehnat krty ho mgr tarbiyat k liya thura b wqt naa hu. mohabbat k liya tarasata bacha phir galat rastay ki janib bhartay hui dusron mai mohabbat talash nhe karega to phir kia karega ? maabaap ka farz banta hai wo unhe taleem kay sath sath unki tarbiyat pr bhe tawaju dai. kyun kay wo taleem to achi day mgr tarbiyat m koi kami reh jai to phr taleem sari bekaar hujti hai .. engineer doctor lawyer anchor surgeon ban jai. Mgr tahzeeb na hu to aisi degree koray kagahz k siwa kuch nh. humray nojwano shesha ko fashion smjh k peetay hain hazaron rupay kharch kr k ya smjhty sheeshaa unhe zindagi ka sukon dyta hai mgr jantay nh k sheesha kitna nuqsaan dah hai. jo inhe thuri dair ka sukon to dyta h mgr unki sehat k liya kitna bura hai. inhe thuray sy paison ki kitab khareed kr k parh lai to shayad inhe zindagi ka koi sabaq hasil hujai ....

Thursday, 4 August 2016


یہاں اچھے لوگ پیچھے رہ جاتے ہیں
برے لوگ چونا لگا کر آگے بڑھ جاتے ہیں
یہاں کامیابی چالاکی سے ہوتی ہے
یہاں شریف لوگ ناکام ہوجاتے ہیں
یہاں چوری کرنے والا چور نہیں امیر کہلاتا ہے
یہاں غریب آٹے کی چکی کی طرح پستا جاتا ہے
یہاں پڑھے لکھے در در مارے مارے پھرتے ہیں
یہاں ڈاکو چور دن دھارے پستول تھامے ، سینہ تانے پھرتے ہیں
یہاں سچ بولنے والے کو خاموش کروا دیا جاتا ہے
یہاں کافروں کے فتوے دیواروں پر چھپتے ہیں
یہاں اختلاف رائے رکھنے والے کو غدار , دشمن سمجھا جاتا ہے
یہاں لوگوں کے ایمان گلی گلی بازاروں میں بکتے ہیں
یہاں بولنے کی بھی پابندی ہے , یہاں بےبس لاچار کی طرف داری بھی جرم ہے
یہاں بے گناہوں کو سزا ملتی ہے ,یہاں مجرم کھلے عام جرم کرتے پھرتے ہیں
یہاں مظلوم لوگ مرتے رہتے ہیں یہاں جنازے پر جنازے کاندھے پر اٹھاۓ اپنے ، اپنوں کے پھرتے ہیں
یہاں لوگ ٣ دن کی عید کے بعد ٤٠ دن کا سوگ مناتے ہیں
یہاں لوگ بستیوں میں جلاۓ جاتے ہیں , خوبصورت  چہرے تیزاب سے دلھاۓ جاتے ہیں , تو کبھی زندہ مٹی میں خاموشی سے دفن کردیۓ جاتے ہیں
یہاں لوگ چپ رہتے ہیں ، "سیدہ" انھیں تنگ مت کرو , یہ زندہ لاشوں کی طرح سوتے رہتے ہیں
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